Whether you have had counselling in the past or whether this is a new experience for you, you may have questions about how I work in sessions. The information below gives a broad outline of what counselling is and how I work with clients from my perspective. If there is anything that you are unsure of or would like further information about, please do not hesitate to get in touch.
My work is underpinned by the Person-Centred approach which means that the client at the centre of the work we do. In real terms, that means that I do my best to see your world from your perspective – to try and understand how you feel as best as I can.
My role is not to ‘change’ or ‘fix’ anyone, to tell you what to do or give you advice, my role is to offer something different - to facilitate your journey – wherever it may lead, offer insight and give you space to explore and grow.
Counselling moves at your pace and I am led by you - where you decide to go in our sessions, I follow. I won’t force you to speak about things that are too painful if you aren’t ready and won’t jump ahead of you. There is no expectation from me that you need to share everything with me during our time together, only what you feel comfortable with or what you feel able to. It is my belief that you bring yourself to our sessions and that is enough.
Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen
The Gifts of Imperfection
A year from now you may wish you had started today
I'm not perfect... But I'm enough
Carl R. Rogers
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom
What I am is good enough if I would only be it openly
Carl R. Rogers
You don't have to stay anywhere forever
Why do you go away? So that you can come back. So that you can see the place you came from with new eyes and extra colors. And the people there see you differently, too. Coming back to where you started is not the same as never leaving
A Hat Full of Sky
Life has no meaning a priori… It is up to you to give it a meaning, and value is nothing but the meaning that you choose
Often, it’s not about becoming a new person, but becoming the person you were meant to be, and already are, but don’t know how to be
Heath L. Buckmaster
Box of Hair: A Fairy Tale
In the counselling relationship, I strive to offer a space that allows you to feel empowered and to let you know that you are seen, heard, accepted and that you are not alone. This can be a powerful and liberating experience and can offer an environment where growth, understanding and acceptance can take place. You can use this space however you wish and the time that we have together is yours.
An important part of the counselling process is the relationship between the client and counsellor. That relationship differs from most others as it is built on genuineness, equality, empathy, acceptance and confidentiality. The boundaries and limitations of the relationship are clear from the start and you are able to make the choice to be there with no judgement, pressure or expectations placed upon you.
You might have questions about me, my work, if counselling is right for you or how I can help you. You might want to speak with me to see if we would be a good fit. I offer a 20-minute free of charge phone consultation to give you the opportunity to check this out for yourself.